Deciding to grow into your true femininity as a woman means choosing to become the best version of yourself. This is never a finished process but rather a life-long journey. We can always learn and improve more. Femininity is not merely a fashion style or a personality type; it’s something that runs deep in the character of what it means to be female. This doesn’t mean it necessarily comes naturally to be feminine all the time. We must overcome our selfish, lazy, greedy instincts as humans in order to tap into our higher true potential of who we were made to be. I have previously identified what I think three core traits of femininity are. The first of these is nurture – but how can we become more nurturing as women? Femininity is inseparable from nurturing because that’s what motherhood, family, friends, community, hospitality, and homemaking are all about.
Loving Hearts
To become nurturing we must first have loving hearts. We should let our hearts be soft to feel compassion and empathy for others, especially those who are more vulnerable than us. This may mean we particularly feel for children, animals, the poor, the oppressed, or people undergoing difficult circumstances or mental health struggles. We should practice putting ourselves in other people’s shoes, remembering that everyone has their own backstory and fears. I think gentleness is something we can cultivate and we can learn to find something to love in everyone around us. Once we position our heart from a place of love, that compassion will naturally begin to overflow in our everyday actions. Having a loving heart means genuinely caring for the people around us, helping them feel safe in our presence, and seeking out ways to nurture those in need.
Protective Boundaries
Having a loving heart doesn’t mean we let people take advantage of us. A loving heart must be kept safe by protective boundaries or we are of no use to anyone. We need to be able to judge and discern both people and situations so that we can continue to nurture those that matter most. Our safety comes first and we mustn’t let it be compromised. If you sense a dangerous situation, get out of there. Nurturing also means nurturing ourselves so, even if it’s not potentially harmful and they’re all good things to do, sometimes we will have to prioritise what is most important to us and say no to things. Femininity is about being strong in our gentleness, and so a gentle heart must have strong boundaries. Be kind always, but don’t let your kindness get taken advantage of or manipulated. It’s not your responsibility to help everyone. You’re not the saviour of the world. Nurture those you can, then pray for other people to reach those you can’t.
Encouraging Spirits
When you have a loving heart and protective boundaries in place, let your nurturing power touch others’ lives by communicating with an encouraging spirit. Words are impactful. They can make someone’s day or devastate them. Words last longer than just the time it takes for you to speak them, so be intentional and make sure that yours build people up. Encourage the people in your life. Lift them up, inspire them, show them who you see they could be, and support them in growing into their beautiful potential. Encouragement is in actions as well as words. Make sure that your energy and presence helps bring out the best in those around you. Reinforce positive behaviour by acknowledging it. If you have a close enough relationship that the other person feels safe with you, then hold them accountable as well and let them know you believe they can be better. Nurturing is about helping life to grow, flourish, and thrive. Try to leave everyone a little better than you found them. That is the true power of feminine nurture.
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