If you’ve been following this series for a while now, you know what to expect. Here are several quotations from various podcasts to offer some food for thought and some contemplation on the theme of friendship.
Belonging: The Polyjuice Potion (Book 2, Chapter 12) – Harry Potter and the Sacred Text
‘I think we as humans want to believe that we only belong in one place.’
Vanessa Zoltan
‘At the same time, so often we feel like we’re made not to belong. And if someone takes away our sense of belonging that’s like a primal would that is very difficult to heal.’
Casper ter Kuilie
‘I think that everybody gives a really hard time to teenagers that they’re rebelling, but that’s so good, right? Thank goodness that teenagers spend a lot of time questioning whether or not they really belong to their families… That period of questioning helps create new realities of regeneration.’
Vanessa Zoltan and Casper ter Kuilie
popularity and being ‘liked’: she doesn’t even go here – higher priestess
‘In childhood popularity is based on likeability. It’s who makes everyone laugh, it’s the class clown, it’s like, childhood. And then when you go through puberty, it becomes less about likeability and more about power. The idea of coolness, like confidence, power, influence, and the people that are the most popular are the “coolest”, I guess that works into status, and not necessarily the people that are the most liked.’
Persephone
‘Your body is working to keep you alive, to keep you popular, because to be popular means you can survive. To be popular means you are protected.’
Erin and Persephone
‘I also think at uni, like, you can really feel the age, ages of people. And you can just feel, and also the thing is, you can see who’s mature and immature, but beyond that and in adult life, I think it isn’t just at university, across all adult life you can feel in whatever way it plays out who was popular and secure in school, and that I think is really telling. It’s really telling because you look around and you see the behaviours that someone might pick up.’
Erin
Show Me Your Friends and I’ll Show You Your Future – The Porch
‘It’s not a perfect group – there is no perfect group, but do you have a group of people that are in your life walking alongside of you? Community, or the types of relationships that I’m saying, are like any relationships. They are forged not found. Any great relationships are forged, not found. In other words, they take work.’
David Marvin
‘Who you run with is gonna for good or bad shape the direction that you are running towards. Are you running with the right people in your life?’
David Marvin
Why Friendships End – The Love, Happiness and Success Podcast With Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
‘People are often friends for a reason, or they’re friends for a season, or sometimes we do have friends for a lifetime.’
Anonymous, quoted by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
‘People have a much lower tolerance, I think, for working through inevitable problems that always come up in long-term relationships with their friends than they do with their romantic partners.’
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
‘The things that kept them together with their friends, some more of the partying lifestyle or just going out doing fun things, that was much of the fabric of that relationship and without that sometimes there just isn’t the substance, the depth, you know, where people really, like, there is a foundation on which to build, so people can begin withdrawing for that reason.’
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
‘There is very seldom a reason to not at least try… I think It’s also important to periodically just take stock of how am I feeling in this domain of my life?’
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
‘That is something that in many ways is really nice about friendships, because with romantic partnerships there’s so much intensity that, for necessary reasons, many times they either need to be on or off, you know. When people try to do a middle ground of just be friends… that doesn’t always work for both people. Friendships can be different in that way, you know, you can just back up a little bit.’
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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